Individual work includes:
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The Philosophical
How do we create change in our lives, behaviors, minds, and relationships? Therapy is one vehicle for change.
You cannot change anything until you know what you are doing. -M. Feldenkrais
Paying attention to our moment-to-moment experience creates potential for transformation. Steady awareness, like a stream of water, reshapes even the most unyielding landscape. Possibility, freedom, and choice wait patiently for the moment when we listen to that inner voice we're always hearing.
All that we do and have done has helped us survive. Self-protection, in all its forms is to be respected. I do not believe that vulnerability and strength are opposites. I do believe cultivating self-compassion and appreciating all it took to get you to this moment is essential for growth and healing.
You cannot change anything until you know what you are doing. -M. Feldenkrais
Paying attention to our moment-to-moment experience creates potential for transformation. Steady awareness, like a stream of water, reshapes even the most unyielding landscape. Possibility, freedom, and choice wait patiently for the moment when we listen to that inner voice we're always hearing.
All that we do and have done has helped us survive. Self-protection, in all its forms is to be respected. I do not believe that vulnerability and strength are opposites. I do believe cultivating self-compassion and appreciating all it took to get you to this moment is essential for growth and healing.
The concrete
I ask a lot of questions to help you examine your underlying belief structures and more deeply know your own mind.
I use mindfulness techniques to help you attend to what is right here, right now. Learning more about what you do and how you do it can help you make choices about how you want to be in the world and in your life.
You already have everything you need to live a fulfilling and joyous life. By integrating your thinking, feeling, and sensing we will work to cultivate your innate gifts and respectfully let go of old habits so you can live more fully. We approach all of this with generosity, humor, and an openness to whatever we uncover.
I use mindfulness techniques to help you attend to what is right here, right now. Learning more about what you do and how you do it can help you make choices about how you want to be in the world and in your life.
You already have everything you need to live a fulfilling and joyous life. By integrating your thinking, feeling, and sensing we will work to cultivate your innate gifts and respectfully let go of old habits so you can live more fully. We approach all of this with generosity, humor, and an openness to whatever we uncover.
"And ruin'd love when it is built anew, Grows fairer than at first, more strong, far greater." - William Shakespeare, Sonnet 119
COUPLES WORK INCLUDES:
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Spirituality, Politics = Queer, Gay, and Trans Identified |
The Philosophical
Effective change requires insight plus action.
Insight without action is passivity.
Action without insight is impulsive.
Insight plus action leads to clarity and power.
- Ellyn Bader, PhD
Insight without action is passivity.
Action without insight is impulsive.
Insight plus action leads to clarity and power.
- Ellyn Bader, PhD
The Concrete
Couples are often unsure what to expect in couples' therapy and just as every couple is different, so is every therapy.
Primarily, I work to help you identify what's happening in the "here and now" both inside your self and between you and your partner in the room. Dealing with the most recent argument or disagreement is not generally productive, as we are always playing "catch up" and simply reacting to something that has already taken place.
Staying with what's going on in the present moment helps us to identify the role each partner plays in the negative cycles as they happen . Learning how each partner participates in these cycles enables us to trace what it is that leads to distress in the relationship. Slowing down, seeing what's happening creates possibility for different, more positive interactions and a rebuilding of connection.
We approach all of this with generosity, humor, and an openness to whatever we uncover.
Primarily, I work to help you identify what's happening in the "here and now" both inside your self and between you and your partner in the room. Dealing with the most recent argument or disagreement is not generally productive, as we are always playing "catch up" and simply reacting to something that has already taken place.
Staying with what's going on in the present moment helps us to identify the role each partner plays in the negative cycles as they happen . Learning how each partner participates in these cycles enables us to trace what it is that leads to distress in the relationship. Slowing down, seeing what's happening creates possibility for different, more positive interactions and a rebuilding of connection.
We approach all of this with generosity, humor, and an openness to whatever we uncover.
Context
Our lives are composed of the stories of our ancestry, which are housed within cultures and institutions that shape us in a multitude of ways. including these elements help us make sense of our personal challenges within larger systems of power, privilege, & oppression.
"The struggle is inner: Chicano, indio, American Indian, mojado, mexicano, immigrant Latino, Anglo in power, working class Anglo, Black, Asian--our psyches resemble the bordertowns and are populated by the same people. The struggle has always been inner, and is played out in outer terrains. Awareness of our situation must come before inner changes, which in turn come before changes in society. Nothing happens in the "real" world unless it first happens in the images in our heads."
-Gloria Anzaldua, Borderlands/La Frontera
-Gloria Anzaldua, Borderlands/La Frontera
"the taste in all our mouths is the taste of power
and it is bitter as death
bring yrself home to yrself, enter the garden
the guy at the gate w/the flaming sword is yrself"
~"Rant" by
Diane DiPrima
and it is bitter as death
bring yrself home to yrself, enter the garden
the guy at the gate w/the flaming sword is yrself"
~"Rant" by
Diane DiPrima